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Ellen E. (Malone) McNair Cates
September 20, 1944 ~ February 16, 2023 (age 78) 78 Years Old
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Ellen E. (Malone) McNair Cates, 78, of Port Monmouth, passed away Thursday, February 16th. Ellen was born in Elizabeth, NJ on September 20, 1944, a daughter of the late Ellen and James Malone. She was raised in Elizabeth and after marrying her first husband, Robert McNair, they settled in Middletown to raise their family. Robert passed away in 1986 and Ellen found love again and married Gordon Cates in 1999. They then moved to California. After Gordon passed away in 2013, Ellen returned home to New Jersey to be closer to her family.
Ellen was a doting mother to her 3 boys. She was always involved with their activities. She volunteered with the school PTA , she was class mom and den Leader with the Cub Scouts. Every summer she packed up the boys and spent family summers with her sister on Long Island. Ellen was an avid Yankees fan and enjoyed trips to Atlantic City. She will be fondly remembered as a loving mother, grandmother, sister and friend.
Ellen was predeceased by her first husband, Robert J. McNair, Sr. ; her second husband, Gordon S. Cates; her brothers; Michael and William Malone and her sister Sheila Maltby.
Ellen is survived by her three sons Robert J. McNair, Jr.; Thomas M. McNair; and Patrick, husband of Kim McNair. She also leaves behind her sister Rosemary Malone; two brothers, Gerald Malone and James Malone along with 7 grandchildren; Kyle, RJ, Rebecca Leigh, Ian, Paige, Kyleigh, and Kendyll.
A Memorial Mass will be celebrated on Saturday, April 22 at 9:30 am at St. Catherines Church in Middletown. The Enurnment of ashes will follow at Mt. Olivet Cemetery.